Sunday, February 15, 2015

COLUMN: Adults not doing their part

Daily News (West Bend, Wis.)
Published: Feb. 14, 2015



Adults not doing their part

We want what’s best for our kids, right? Of course we do. Why wouldn’t we? So why do we feel it is necessary to do something that would embarrass and/or punish our kids?
At last week’s Wisconsin Little Ten Conference championship wrestling meet at Oconomowoc High School, a fight broke out among a handful of parents from Wisconsin Lutheran and West Bend East.
The details on how and why the fight started are sketchy. We don’t know who started it. We don’t know who pushed whom first. It doesn’t matter.
Then, this week, the Jackie Robinson West Little League team out of Chicago had its U.S. title stripped because of illegal recruiting, where the organization redrew the boundaries without proper notification.
What are we told as kids and what do we try to tell our kids? It’s never good to fight to solve a problem and it’s never good to cheat.
There is a line between being supportive of your children. But don’t dare cross it. Otherwise, more harm than good is taking place.
Handle situations like mature adults. As adults, we are role models. We have to act like it. We’re trying to teach how to respond and act in various situations of adversity. Fighting left one person with an injured and bloodied nose, and another person on a battery charge.
So was it worth it?
It took away the accomplishment of the wrestlers and changed the mood in the building. It was an embarrassing sight to see, people fighting at a high school sporting event. Can you imagine what it must’ve felt like for the kids whose parents were involved in the mess or even the ones who weren’t involved?
You have to feel sorry for them.
What lesson was learned here?
Again, the reason it went down is moot. But if it was because someone’s vision was impaired by someone standing up in front of someone else, then get an event administrator.
It’s disheartening to see the lack of respect people have for other people these days.
With the Jackie Robinson West Little League team, it’s a harsh penalty the kids have to pay for. There is just no other way to punish what happened. The adults were ignorant and it cost them a heart-warming accomplishment by their kids.
If we’re not careful, something like what happened in Indiana can occur.
A fight broke out after a hard foul was committed in a boys basketball game. The video of the fight between Hammond and Griffith high schools in northwest Indiana was jaw-dropping.
The state’s high school association did the right thing: It forfeited the rest of the season for both schools.
There was a difference. It started with the players on the court.
However, the message was sent: Behavior like this will not be tolerated under any circumstance.
Thankfully the fight at Oconomowoc was short-lived and no one else was injured.
However, how do we know it won’t escalate further next time where someone could get seriously hurt or even die?
At that point, just be lucky or grateful to have the rest of a season canceled.
 

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